Hi,
I don't know if this will solve your problem, but I just finished a product design of a handheld device that uses (2) S08 processors on board. I kep all (6) pins of the BDM interface but used a 50-mil pitch lower profile female (socket) part.
SAMTEC .050" pitch 6 pos female socket P/N CLP-103-02-G-D
We then just made up some small adapter PCBs (postage-stamp sized) to convert the 100mil pitch 6 way male header that mates with the typically .100" square ribbon cable connector from the PE Micro programmers to the 50mil pitch mating SAMTEC header to plug into the PCB. I can basically fit the (2) programming/debug connectors on the PCB in the same real estate as (1) of the "standard" .100" 6 pos BDM header, and much less than half the height (which was a big issue for me).
Hope this helps!
Mike