1. It is up to the user. Automatic calibration was specially implemented to get the process faster/easier. SW override allows to set different output impedance values, e.g. to use fine tuning for your particular DDR system. Automatic calibration always sets value close to 18 Ohm.
2. DDRCDR is 0x730400001 at reset. Can be found, for example, in table 5-33.
3. DDRDSR always shows current impedance, for example after automatic calibration.
Regards,
Bulat