Dear David,
db16122 correctly pointed you to the Table 3. in the UM10301. If your target load capacitance is 12.5pF, then you need to connect a trim capacitor on the OSCI pin with 25pF middle value.
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This 25pF value can be calculated from the formula below the Table 30. in the PCF8563 datasheet.
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Where CL is the target load capacitance, in your case 12.5pF.
Cosco is the known internal capacitance, the 25pF.
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From the formula, the Ctrim can deduced:
CL=Ctrim*Cosco/(Ctrim+Cosco)
CL*Ctrim+CL*Cosco=Ctrim*Cosco
CL*Cosco=Ctrim*Cosco-CL*Ctrim
CL*Cosco=Ctrim*(Cosco-CL)
CL*Cosco/(Cosco-CL)=Ctrim
Ctrim=CL*Cosco/(Cosco-CL)=12.5*25/(25-12.5)=312.5/12.5
Ctrim=25pF
The variable trim capacitor is required because there is margin for the internal Cosco capacitor. Cosco may vary from 15pF to 35pF.
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With Best Regards,
Jozef