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In MCSPTR2AK396 page you can get the design files (including the BOM) to see the specific connector that you mention.
On the other hand, to connect other controller board to the inverter board, we recommend the S32SDEV-CON18, for more details see Figure 2.3.1 Hardware Setup of the following post:
https://community.nxp.com/t5/NXP-Model-Based-Design-Tools/PMSM-Motor-Control-Application-for-S32K396...
I hope this information is helpful