Hi,
max bitrate is about 8Mbps, you can refer to chapter 43.5.10 Clock domains and restrictions of the RM for more info. For sure this bitrate must be supported by used CAN transceiver. For higher bitrates (>4MHz) enabling TDC would be needed.
For you issue, check if any error is detected that can point to root cause (bit timing, PHY issues, etc)...
If just data are lost, I guess on receing side, it can simply show that you are not able to handle/process received messages within MBs in time over all used FlexCAN modules. Check a processing time.
BR, Petr