Normally, where you can connect a crystal you can connect an oscillator (but not the other way). The output of the oscillator needs to be connected to the low impedance pin of the microcontroller, if using a single output oscillator (normally should be XOUT due to being the low impedance pin, but naming is not an standard).
For the LPC5411, the recommended way of handling the unused pins is as follows:
RTCXIN -> Connect to GND
RTCXOUT -> Leave unconnected
This could state that, aside from the convention I mentioned before, RTCXOUT is a Hi-Z pin, which leaving unconnected is a common practice. In this particular case then, the output of the oscillator should be connected to the RTCXIN pin (maybe to give a more intuitive name to the pin).
Still, no examples using TCXO are available at this moment for LPC. Nonetheless, we do recommend for you to contact an NXP representative for a better support.
Please, let us know if this information helps you or not.