Ok, I've discovered new things we the help of a friend.
Pin 45 (ptd3) of the daughter card slot on demoqe board is not directly linked to pin 31 (ptd3) of the mcu port! I don't know what there is between the two pins. This is not written on the Demoqe Base Board Schematic, where it is showed that pins are linked (as all other ones).
To answer to your question Jim, to program the 32 bit daughter card outside demoqe, I link pin 45 of the daughter card slot (on demoqe board) to pin 45 of the mcf51qe128 on my card. So I watched what was happening on this pin with an osciloscope. When doing the connection, the signal falls to 0v for 2ms; otherwise it is +Vdd. Then, after connection, nothings happens on the pin and I can remove it for debugging. I think this signal is used by the demoqe board to detect the daughter card... But this only happens with the 32 bits daughter card, not with the 8 bits.
I haven't read all the datasheet, but I think this is not explained.