I've always found it helpful to browse the app notes on the websites of crystal manufacturers -- lots of good information for begineers and experts. Maybe search Digikey, Mouser, Newark to identify the companies supplying "in stock" parts, then check their websites.
For crystals, I've had success using this simple formula to set the 2 load cap values:
Cap = 2 * ( CLxtal - 3.5 stray )
CLxtal is the crystal datasheet load capacitance.
The 3.5 pF stray capacitance is ONLY typical for 2-4 layer 062 FR4 boards and it VARIES. It is always best to design values on paper, build a few boards, measure, adjust. Don't put a scope on the crystal pins or its load caps -- it will affect the measurement. Have the CPU output the clock on another pin, hopefully with a large divisor so it's reasonably low in frequency, then put the scope there.
Chris