Hi and welcome to the forum.
The XDP512 is very well suited to automotive applications and the demo board is a nice tool to start with.
There is a general trend to program in C and this is made easy with the CodeWarrior Special Edition toolset that includes compilers and debuggers - have a look around this forum to see what people think about it.
There are quite a number of resources on the web. Start with the facilities on this website (training, app notes, data books) and have a look at independent sources including books. The S12XD512 comes from a long line of processors so there is much useful information available under "68HC12" and "S12" as well.
I'll ask the independent users here to suggest their favourite websites.