No signal on EXTAL indicates no external clock. The Freescale documentation says that the reset value of the SCME bit in the PLLCTL register is 1, so the MCU will start up in Self Clock Mode, using the on-chip PLL for a clock.
For the PLL to operate in a stable way, you need to have VDDPLL bypassed to VSSPLL and VSSPLL connected to the other VSS pins and ground. In addition there needs to be a suitable PLL filter connected to the XFC pin.
Even if the MCU is operating in self clocked mode, you will not be able to get reliable BDM communication, because the clock frequency is unknown and not stable.
In addition to possible bad MCU, could have a problem with the crystal or other components connected to EXTAL and XTAL. You could also have a bad solder jiont somewhere in the above circuits...
It is also possible that your scope probe is adding enough capacitance to prevent the oscillator from oscillating. Do you get the same /RESET behavior with nothing on EXTAL and XTAL?