Hello Colin,
There are two points, which are absolutely independent. First one is Reset escalation, second one is the state when reset is always 0 after power on reset.
If there is the reset escalation, debugger is able to connect to the microcontroller. PEMicro can do this without any user intervention, Lauterbach has feature called Halt Core at power-on reset.
If you have any other question, please feel free to write me back.
Regards,
Martin