In my case, it seems bit 13 is not having any effect. I cannot fully isolate power to the SDRAM in my system, but with either of the following I can get power consumption to very low levels most(*) of the time:
Option A:
EMC->DYNAMICCONTROL |= 0x00002007; /* set DP, CE, CS, and SR bits */
EMC_Deinit(EMC);
// Bit 13 (DP) does not seem to have any effect, but it is required to set bit 2 (SR)
Option B (use library functions):
EMC_EnableDynamicMemControl(EMC, true);
EMC_EnterSelfRefreshCommand(EMC, true);
EMC_Deinit(EMC);
Note that Option B is equivalent to Option A without bit 13.
(*) Less than half the time, I see an increased current consumption of about ~3mA @ 3.3V. This may be due to one of the other peripherals in the system. I have not yet been able to isolate all of those and confirm they are in their lowest power states.